The ego is a two-sided coin. It helps to protect us, maintain boundaries and assists us in growing, learning and functioning in daily life. The other side of the coin is the ego can become stuck in the victim mentality. Sometimes bad things do happen to you and you become frozen in your reaction to those bad things. The Ego is trying to make you look good and feel good. Staying the victim will let you off the hook by allowing you to believe that your circumstance is everyone else’s fault. Questions you could ask yourself are “Why does this always have to happen to me?” Do you believe in fate or do you think you’re in control of your life? Do you think you’re responsible for what happens to you?

The victim feels that he or she is unfairly treated and they can never see a way out. They believe they’re trapped and sometimes believe that he or she deserves punishment. Victims are into trauma and drama while creating stress and pain for themselves. It makes them feel important when they can convince themselves they have enormous problems, the ego likes that.
We all have moments when we think life hasn’t treated us fairly. We all have times when we are angry and blame others for our misfortune.

Sometimes life’s events may make us feel we even need punishment and deserve to be a victim, but it becomes a problem when we become STUCK in these feelings. At the root of victimhood is a refusal to forgive.

How do you move out of victimhood? Set your intentions:

1.     to forgive those who have wronged  you
2.    to be impeccable with your word
3.    to not to take anything personally

It is easy to say the words I forgive you, but another thing to feel it in your heart. If you will forgive, the how will be taken care of.
Practice discipline and awareness to put impeccability of your word into action. Words have energy and that that energy can create or destroy, being mindful of your words will help you remember that you have a responsibility for the effect you’re having on other people as well as yourself. One fear of doubt planted in our minds can create a steady stream of drama. Be impeccable with your word also means that you take responsibility for your actions without blaming or judging yourself or others. Being impeccable with your word means you to avoid gossip, the ultimate negativity in word energy.

Taking things personally is your Ego’s need to feel important. Whatever you think and feel is your problem, it’s not what someone says, it hurts you; it is that what they said touches your personal wounds. No person, place, or thing has power over us. To step out of victimhood, must be willing to change and express yourself in positive ways. Consistency in using positive energy words you say to others and about yourself will help you step out of victimhood. Realizing that what others say and do is about them, not you, can help you disconnect from responding to them in anger and frustration. You have the freedom to make choices, to love yourself and others and increase your energetic power.