Heartland Hypnosis Conference 2019
January 28, 2019 6:09 PM | Tagged as Heartland Hypnosis Conference, hypnosis
Put the Heartland Hypnosis Conference on you schedule. April 26 - April 28. I will be speaking Sunday April 28 4p-6p Metaphysical Room
Generation to Generation; Healing Inter-Generational Soul Wounds.
Hypnosis Certification Training
June 29, 2018 1:18 PM | Tagged as hypnosis, Hypnosis Certification, Hypnosis Springfield
Are You Addicted to Getting Things Done?
August 23, 2017 4:36 PM | Tagged as addiction, hypnosis
Are you addicted to getting things done? Do you believe after you get everything done you will be living the good life on a beach sipping pina collada's? Most of us are guilty of believing if we want to succeed in life we have to be continually setting goals and obsessively working toward them as quickly as you can. Your mind is always fast forwarding to what is next creating impossible stress, negativity and a sense of loss in you life.
Goals and achievements are necessary in life but become problematic when you delay your happiness in favor of being happy later. When does later come? The problem with constantly focusing on getting things done and moving on to the next thing is it takes its toll on your mind and body. Time to slow down and bring your mind into the present.
Ironically, taking a slower path and putting your focus fully on what you are doing will help you to be more mindful and more successful. The next time you find yourself on the, "I gotta do it", roller coaster stop and ask yourself the question if it is "working for you?" Ask yourself the question if what you are doing is in alignment with your integrity? Breath, become in tune with your environment. Being present will help you enlist your subconscious mind to be more creative, charismatic and happy.
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July 24, 2016 10:55 AM | Tagged as Awareness, Self Help
Often we go through the day not even noticing what is happening around us. Following are suggestions for implementing awareness to help keep yourself grounded and present.
Love & Light
Interview with Leah Chapin
May 26, 2014 8:58 PM | Tagged as Writing Rituals
5/27 I will be interviewed on Inspiration From Spirit by Leah Chapin at 3:00 Florida time about my book My Golden Heart: Putting the Pieces Back Together Again. The link to hear the show anytime is: http://www.mixcloud.com/tag/lea-chapin/
MY GOLDEN HEART: PUTTING THE PIECES BACK TOGETHER AGAIN
May 26, 2014 8:38 PM | Tagged as addiction, Grief, hypnosis, sex abuse, Soul Loss, soul wounds
Date: May 24, 2014
Visionary Artist, Author, Hypnotherapist
Sharron Magyar is a visionary artist and consulting hypnotherapist who helps people to identify soul wounds that have them stuck in life. Her art as well as her writing reach to the core of the self, as well as provide a path to wholeness for others. Currently she resides in Chatham, Illinois, is the owner of Golden Heart Hypnosis and director of Golden Heart School of Hypnosis.
Book: My Golden Heart: Putting the Pieces Back Together Again
By Sharron Magyar
There are 46 million parents of children who are addicted to drugs or alcohol in the United States today. Much is written about addiction and how to recover from it, but little is written for parents to help them survive their child’s addiction. Addiction not only destroys the addicted but is a disease that has a profound negative effect on families and loved ones.
Sharron had a daughter who grew up to be addicted to drugs and eventually died of her addiction. My Golden Heart: Putting the Pieces Back Together Again is a mother’s story of the heartache of her daughter’s journey. Through the experience Sharron began asking questions. How do people get stuck in addiction or even get stuck in life? Often when we ask the question we have to experience the answer to find truth.
Weaving together gifts as a storyteller and healer, Sharron identifies five soul wounds that can keep you stuck in life. You will learn how to free yourself from soul wounds that limit your thoughts, emotions and energy by working with the stories and exercises in this book. My Golden Heart: Putting the Pieces Together Again leads you to a deeper level of awareness of the power of the subconscious mind by helping you return to the authenticity you were born with.
Sharron can be reached at 217-483-7200 or email@example.com or go to goldenhearthypnosis.com for more information.
Her book can be purchased at Amazon Books: http://www.amazon.com/My-Golden-Heart-Putting-Together/dp/1628650478/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1385504223&sr=8-1&keywords=sharron+magyar
Finding Your Voice
March 28, 2014 9:30 AM
Today in the newspaper there was an article called “With experience comes knowledge”. Thearticle was asking, “What advice would you give the younger version of you?” Is there something you would do differently? More often? Less often? Or exactly the same? I welcome your response, as I am interested in what you have to say. What advice would you give your younger self?
As I am thinking of these questions personally I could come up with a lot of answers but the following is the one I settled on. If I could give advice to my younger self I would advise myself “to be more vocal in standing up for my ethics.” Sometimes I stood by and remained silent while I knew someone was making a bad decision (especially in respect to my oldest daughter who became addicted to drugs). Some of my excuses for remaining silent were, “She knows the consequences of what she is doing, she’s old enough to make her own decisions, let her make her own decisions. “
In the book When to Speak up and When to Shut Up Dr. Sedler notes that we can often find ourselves in the predicament of whether to share personal feelings and risk offending someone or remain silent, maintaining “peace” but not being true to one’s self. I have learned as my older self that I cannot stay silent to compromise my personal ethics. I now know to speak up! This does not give me permission to run over other people’s feelings. I am trying to evaluate my past choices to make room for further growth.
Often we struggle to find our voice either as a child or in relationships. As we start the process of self change and transformation we sometimes learn what silence has a cost. My rule of good health is to speak up if I find I have to compromise my integrity. At the very least I feel better about myself.
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January 13, 2014 8:24 AM
At Christmas time I was in a long line at the Habitat for Humanity store. Apparently the cashier was having trouble with the cash register computer which was being obstinate and slow. I assumed she was a volunteer. The woman waiting at the front of the line quite frankly was acting obnoxiously. She was complaining about how slow the check out was, complaining that she already had to watch her grandkids for the day, and now “this”. She threatened the cashier that she could have just walked out of the store without paying for the chair.
Oh my gosh! What a fiasco. The cashier stoically took all she had to dish out and never wavered with her politeness. I am observing it all. When the lady left the person behind her said to the cashier,” I want to shake your hand; you handled all that quite well.” Everyone in the line clapped.
I too appreciated how the cashier handled things but there was a part of me that was so sad for the woman. There were several things evident to me about. First, was the stress and anger that she “had” to watch her grandchildren that morning. I doubt the children were too happy about being watched by her because she was so angry and stressed. What a missed opportunity for love and happiness for all of them!
The irony was that she took her frustrations verbally out on the casher, when she was unable to find voice for herself and say, “I don’t feel like babysitting today.” How many times do we take out our feelings or inability to speak up on others? I would just have liked to put my arms around the woman and tell her to take a deep breath and let out all of her frustrations. Imagine a good time and space and let all the garbage she had collected roll off of her. That is the hypnotist in me.
The lesson for me of course is being more responsible for speaking up when I really don’t want to do something, because if I don’t I may do just what the woman did, which is inappropriately take it out on a stranger. I am thinking more about that.
Here is to having a happy Christmas and knowing when to speak up and when to shut up.
A Christmas Tree
November 26, 2012 10:31 AM | Tagged as christmas, Golden Heart Hynosis Center, hypnosis, Hypnosis Springfield Illinois
Sometimes lessons come in groups and right now my sister, Raymond and I are getting lessons about dealing with frustration and attachment to money. My sister bought a Christmas tree with all the lights on it last year after Christmas at Lowes for $200.00. It was a white tree which she was so proud of and she spent the whole year off and on buying black and silver ornaments for that tree. Usually she is traveling during the holidays, but this year she was going spend the holiday at home so she was excited about the prospect of decorating her house and putting the new tree up.
Tuesday, December 18, 2012 7:05 PM
Many many quality pitons there.
Tuesday, December 18, 2012 7:05 PM
None can doubt the veratciy of this article.
Tuesday, December 18, 2012 7:03 PM
Way to use the internet to help poelpe solve problems!
Just Show UP
November 12, 2012 10:29 AM | Tagged as depression, Grief
I have a friend who recently lost her daughter in a car accident. Having lost my own daughter suddenly I can only have empathy for the months ahead of my friend. I am trying to think of words I can say that would help her through the upcoming months.
Can Anyone Learn to Become a Hypnotist?
September 12, 2012 11:54 AM | Tagged as Golden heart hypnosis Center, hypnosis, Hypnosis Illinois, Hypnosis Springfield Illinois, Hypnotherapy, hypnotism, hypnotist, hypnotist
This week I have been interviewing candidates for my upcoming hypnotist training class in October. One of the questions I was asked was, “Can anyone be a hypnotist?” I had to do some serious thinking on that question.
I am going to quantify the answer to that question by saying anyone with reasonable intelligence can learn to be a hypnotist. Let me put this in another framework for you. I am an artist and I can teach you how to draw by teaching you the mechanics of line and perspective. The quality and impression of the drawing will depend on how much you can connect with you inner vision and sight for expression of that drawing.
There is a difference between a child’s drawing and Leonardo de Vinci based on their life’s experiences. The same is true with learning to be a hypnotist. You can be taught how to do hypnosis inductions, how to gain rapport, how to do a suggestibility test and you can be a hypnotist, but are you content with just being an average hypnotist?
I like to think of being a hypnotist as being on an enlightened journey in which you should be challenged personally, intellectually, and intuitively. Our focus with training to be a consulting hypnotist is to both give the mechanics of being an ethical & practical hypnotist as well as being able to connect with your personal intuition and wisdom. Anyone can be a hypnotist, being a great hypnotist requires personal growth and deep change within you.
Monday, October 1, 2012 7:00 AM
A. Wik:Hi,It would be helpful if you had some sort of index over your arceilts.As it is, the only thing readily accessible is the The Power of Hypnosis on your front page.-aw
Sunday, September 30, 2012 8:26 PM
it works. however, most of what it is used for in real life, off the stage, is a bit bniorg. However, if it works for you, it is a really cool experience! Some people cannot go under even if they want to. Hypnosis requires first the relaxation of your body (through mental focus), and then of your mind. However, it is more like distracting your mind, eventually making it wander sometimes.What is it used for? relaxation and tension relief, naturally. At the professional level, it seems to help people reduce bad tendencies in their mind, like habits and fears. Mind over matter is a big key to hypnosis- look up psychosomatic Disorders for examples of how much power your mind can have over your body.
Sunday, September 30, 2012 4:01 PM
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Soul Wounds to the Inner Child
May 16, 2012 1:39 PM | Tagged as golden heart hypnosis, Golden heart hypnosis Center, mortal wounds, Soul Loss
What is a soul wound? A soul wound is a physical, mental and/or spiritual wound caused by a trauma which becomes buried in the subconscious mind and depletes a person of their life force energy.
What I want to share with you is what you need to know about your subconscious mind and soul wounds to your inner child. A happy child which has grown-up loved and well nourished and will carry few soul wounds. They can have some that come to them out of misinterpretation or misunderstandings or perhaps something they’re worrying about or something they witness.
Soul wounds become embedded in the subconscious mind and body, and whatever the age is that the wounded happened there is a collection of negative energy and emotions which are stored in the subconscious mind.
A child will do one or two things when wounded. Energetically he will step out of his body out of fear and that part of the child can choose not to return, resulting in energy loss for the child. Energy loss results in poor memory, stress, poor coordination, heightened emotional sensitivity, inability to focus and concentrate. The child is literally operating on less than 100% energy functioning, and he is trying to learn and grow. This diverted energy causes deficits in growing and learning.
In extreme cases of abuse soul wounds to a child can create distinct personalities that will absorb the trauma. Specific stressors can cause the one or more specific personalities to come forth and take control in triggering situations. We all have specific personalities within ourselves, I have the artist personality, I have the writer personality, I have a "Stone" personality who can be tight with her money at the stupidest of times and each of those personalities come forth depending on what activity I'm engaged in. A personality created in response to a soul wound has great intensity and feeling. The mind is a beautiful thing and will protect us at all costs.
So to recap; when the child suffers from soul wounds they can energetically step out of their bodies and that energy can choose not to return out of fear, shame or anger, resulting in perpetual energy loss for the child. At some point the individual must re- visit the triggering event to the soul wound to retrieve those lost energies and cycle the event through to healing. The created injured child is locked in time, and as a child grows into adulthood, the injured child will appear when it is afraid, shamed or angry and act just as it did in that time in their life!
Adults who grow up carrying an inner child with soul wounds can have dysfunctional beliefs and actions that have great power over an adult’s life. The adult should carefully cultivates a relationship with the inner child (or children) to address their fears, shame and/or anger in some manner.
Ways to heal the inner child is to do a soul retrieval or soul healing in an "out of time state". Why out of time state? Remember the subconscious mind doesn’t evaluate what it experiences as real or unreal but will adapt and accept according to what it experiences through the use of signs and symbols.
Avenues for healing are sound therapy, hypnosis, massage, prayer, yoga, as well as counseling through a psychologist.
As a consulting hypnotist we refer anyone with a mental diagnosis or who we suspect needs a mental diagnosis to the health care practitioner. We do not diagnose or treat mental illness.
Sunday, July 22, 2012 8:20 AM
you really do not have to..have you ever dream you were soenome else soenome who is wearing clothes of another era..or dream of a home that you know was once yours..but you have never lived in it.. do you have a fear.. like of water or heights.. were you may have drown or fell off something all those can be clues..
Inherited Soul Loss
May 8, 2012 11:50 PM | Tagged as golden heart hypnosis, Golden heart hypnosis Center, hypnosis, Hypnosis Illinois, Hypnotherapy, hypnotist, Soul Loss, Worry
A child can be born into a life situation with their parents that is traumatic. Sometimes in the case of healing the inner child you are trying to heal things that do not originate with you but your parents. Parents can be emotionally impoverished because their needs were not met as infants, children or adults. (Miller 1983) states that children and infants can be used in unhealthy inappriate ways to meet the parents needs. A child can also empathically pick up a parents feeling tone and build their personality upon the parents emotions.
An example of this would be if a parent had a child that died and then had a second child and that child was born before the parent had proper time to grieve, the second child would have the task of building their personality on the feeling tone of grief.
Your inner child works on an emotional level and when the child is experiencing extreme guilt, shame or fear these emotions often become locked in the body and subconscious mind in "out of time" reality. Because the hurt and trauma is embedded in an "out of time reality," healing can be less traumatic and stressful in an "out of time" reality such as hypnosis, breath work, or meditation. Remember again the subconscious mind doesn’t evaluate if something is real or unreal so when you visualize feelings or events through hypnosis you integrate the experience as real. When the inner child steps up you cannot reason with it but must acknowledge its anger and fears so your inner child can cycle through to release them. Working with your inner child is rewarding because not only can you heal yourself, you can often stop the generational patterns that repeat themselves.
Sometimes a child can have a toxic parent who shames or ridicules the child. This child hides in shame out of fear of humiliation or ridicule. What is difficult is a toxic parent may appear to be a loving parent. Often they are needy children themselves and expect the child to meet their needs. Healing the inner child is a process and you have to be willing to do the work. The first step to healing is to recognize what your inner child’s needs are and bring your anger and fear into awareness so you can complete the cycle of releasing stuck emotions.
Sunday, July 22, 2012 2:20 PM
It depends on the soochls and on the kids, and I would go and interview and observe any soochls you are considering. My eldest would had some early learning issues which might have benefited from being homeschooled, except that she was compulsively social and would have absolutely hated not having kids around most of the day. I ended up doing a lot of tutoring until she was up to par, but kept her in formal school systems. As to the public private thing, I have tried both public and private soochls. In some places the public soochls were better than the private ones; in others it was the reverse. I am myself Catholic and I tithe, so that the local Catholic school system is free to me, but there was a time when I sent one kid to the Catholic school, and the other to nonreligious private school. (The local public soochls at that time and place were bad in all respects.) The secular private school was more academically challenging but had a problem with drugs and alcohol. My risk taker therefore got sent to the Catholic school, my cautious kid to the other.
April 1, 2012 12:10 PM | Tagged as golden heart hypnosis, Golden heart hypnosis Center, hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, hypnotism, Sharron Magyar, Worry
Have you ever had a night when you laid your head down to sleep and worry thoughts rollaround and around in your head? You worry about what you said and did that day, you worry about what tomorrow will bring. You worry about your children, your parents, all of it over and over again.
I’m going to ask you a question. Did any of that worrying bring you any comfort or resolution? The answer would probably be no. Negative thoughts before sleeping expend energy during your sleep. You can learn to save your energy from worrying by using the following technique:
At night when you lie down to sleep go through your events of the day. If you come to a thought or action that you regret or wish had a different outcome in your mind visualize that same event with a positive outcome, then forget about it.
Fall asleep with your new visualization and what you will be scripting your subconscious mind with is a blueprint for dealing with a like issue in the future and a blue print for what you desire to attract into your life. Your subconscious mind does not evaluate is something real or not real, it just accepts what you are visualizing at face value.
This process can both attract positive energy into your life and prevent you from losing energy through worry.
There is a saying: Spending your energy on worrying about a problem just attracts that problem to you. Spend the same energy on the solution to the problem and your life will be changed dramatically.
Tuesday, May 1, 2012 10:10 PM
I would suggest that beelif is a critical factor in all walks of life. Including more conventional' treatments such as drugs. The placebo effect is well-established.Language forms the basis of thought and any thought consistently held can be considered a beelif.So someone skilled with language can help us to change the mental screen with which we filter reality and thus change the picture we are apparently seeing'.
Tuesday, May 1, 2012 7:20 PM
I liked your video. I will go to your website. You have a very cinovncing voice. I could easily learn to obey your commands. I hope many people learn these techniques so that they can more easily control people like me. Thank you.
April 1, 2012 12:04 PM | Tagged as Forgiveness, goldenheart hypnosis center, Grief, hypnosis, Hypnosis Illinois, hypnotism, hypnotist, Sharron Magyar, Soul Loss
"The pain passes, but the beauty remains".
--Pierre-Auguste Renoir (1841-1919
--Pierre-Auguste Renoir (1841-1919
I cannot tell you the shock of one day your child is living and the next she is dead. Never mind the circumstances. First there is mindboggling numbness. I could not feel anything except denial. . . It can’t be true that my daughter is dead; I am in a living nightmare. Mind altering numbness, I couldn’t think, take care if my body, interact reasonably with anyone. Worst of all was all of the inane comments people make to you out of their own pain and discomfort! I have not lost my mind so why would you say such stupid things to me like, "She’s in a better place," or "I understand how you feel." Like hell you understand how I feel! All of my energy was sucked out of my body and it took Herculean effort just to walk from one room to another.
Then my mind, body and emotions begin to awaken and all there was was pain. I cried and cried and cried until there are no more tears to cry.
Washington Irving said this about crying: "There is sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief... and unspeakable love."
I did not feel powerful, I wanted to die! Most of the tears were silent and alone because I was ashamed to let anyone see me so vulnerable, but not always. One day it was a beautiful day and I went to McDonalds to get some breakfast and as I was sitting there eating my sandwich a memory of Tammy snuck up on me and I started to cry then and there out of the blue. I felt my face fill with shame because I couldn’t control the tears. To make matters worse a good friend from out of town was there and when he saw me he came over to comfort me. Again I felt embarrassed and ashamed that I put him in the position to "feel" for me. I could give myself permission to deal with my feeling but it was so hard to deal with other’s feelings about the situation too.
I could not focus on anything for any length at a time, I forgot appointments, lethargy settled upon me. I had hardly enough energy to get dressed, cook a meal let alone think clearly about anything. I forgot to pay bills. When I think of that time period I do not remember most of it. Spiritually I was checked out of my body. I wanted to be mad at God, but a part of me knew that he knew what was best and Tammy’s suffering was over, but it didn’t make the pain go away. Maybe I could take drugs or drink, but I really knew that wasn’t for me. I began to realize I had to surrender to my grief and understood there was no shortcut through this despair. Some days I thought I was going crazy as I would be fine one moment and on my knees the next. The unpredictability of grief was driving me nuts! I expected the emotional component but the physical devastation it took on me left me uncentered and debilitated.
My heart was broken and I didn’t know how to put it back together again. I just prayed my life would not be stuck in this grief and God would find a way to get me through it. Finally I get out from under the shock enough to begin to realize I needed a way to express my grief and I began to write and write and write. I told Tammy’s story and my journey with her through her life and I could begin to see the light in the world. I was gentle and patient with myself. If I needed to sleep, I slept. If I didn’t feel like being social, I wasn’t social. No apologies, I simply had to do what I had to do to survive. I made an effort to eat right and exercise as much as I was able to and I was unbelievable selfish, all I could manage was focusing on my needs and me. All I could do was give myself permission to experience the pain and not allow myself to fall into the "what if" trap. I allowed myself to be surrounded by loved ones when I could; it was ok that it was not always. All I could do was cling to hope. I will get better. There will come a time when I will find some degree of joy in life again. I know my life has been changed forever, and I can never fill the void left by my daughter’s death, but I pray I will learn to live with it in a meaningful way. I had no choice but to trust the grief process and cling to the hope I would survive and that God had plans for my life. It was hard to see those plans out of the darkness. Just when I thought things were getting better a deep depression descended upon me. I could not remember anything; my thoughts were doom and gloom. I could not see anything positive about life. There was one part me observing. . . so this is what depression is like, another part experiencing. I went to the Dr.; he put me on an antidepressant. I hated it and my body said no way! I was in a dark hole and couldn’t climb out by myself. I guess I just have to hold onto the faith that I will work through the depression. I pray and pray each day for God to lift the depression and finally he does. I am changed, a transformation has happened. I still have moments when grief springs up unexpectedly but they are fewer and fewer. I remember the good times with my daughter with happiness and I let go of the sorrows she brought into my life. I am free from the pain of seeing my daughter suffer from addiction and being helpless to prevent it. My daughter is in a better place, free from the pain of her life on earth, her life of struggle with addiction; her learning of forgiveness was meaningful. I have empathy and understanding of what it is like to be in a dark place and feel you cannot get out and now I can recognize grief in others whether it is grieving the loss of a person or grieving the loss of something in a person’s life. I thank God for that blessing in all of this and I wear my newfound wisdom with humility.
My heart was broken and I didn’t know how to put it back together again. I just prayed my life would not be stuck in this grief and God would find a way to get me through it.
Finally I get out from under the shock enough to begin to realize I needed a way to express my grief and I began to write and write and write. I told Tammy’s story and my journey with her through her life and I could begin to see the light in the world. I was gentle and patient with myself. If I needed to sleep, I slept. If I didn’t feel like being social, I wasn’t social. No apologies, I simply had to do what I had to do to survive. I made an effort to eat right and exercise as much as I was able to and I was unbelievable selfish, all I could manage was focusing on my needs and me. All I could do was give myself permission to experience the pain and not allow myself to fall into the "what if" trap. I allowed myself to be surrounded by loved ones when I could; it was ok that it was not always. All I could do was cling to hope. I will get better. There will come a time when I will find some degree of joy in life again. I know my life has been changed forever, and I can never fill the void left by my daughter’s death, but I pray I will learn to live with it in a meaningful way.
I had no choice but to trust the grief process and cling to the hope I would survive and that God had plans for my life. It was hard to see those plans out of the darkness. Just when I thought things were getting better a deep depression descended upon me.
I could not remember anything; my thoughts were doom and gloom. I could not see anything positive about life. There was one part me observing. . . so this is what depression is like, another part experiencing. I went to the Dr.; he put me on an antidepressant. I hated it and my body said no way! I was in a dark hole and couldn’t climb out by myself. I guess I just have to hold onto the faith that I will work through the depression. I pray and pray each day for God to lift the depression and finally he does.
I am changed, a transformation has happened. I still have moments when grief springs up unexpectedly but they are fewer and fewer. I remember the good times with my daughter with happiness and I let go of the sorrows she brought into my life. I am free from the pain of seeing my daughter suffer from addiction and being helpless to prevent it. My daughter is in a better place, free from the pain of her life on earth, her life of struggle with addiction; her learning of forgiveness was meaningful. I have empathy and understanding of what it is like to be in a dark place and feel you cannot get out and now I can recognize grief in others whether it is grieving the loss of a person or grieving the loss of something in a person’s life. I thank God for that blessing in all of this and I wear my newfound wisdom with humility.
I Forgive My Past Experiences
February 19, 2012 12:05 PM | Tagged as Forgiveness, Golden heart hypnosis Center, hypnosis, Hypnosis Illinois, Soul Loss
The ego is a two-sided coin. It helps to protect us, maintain appropriate boundaries and assists us in growing, learning and functioning in daily life. The other side of the coin is the ego can become stuck in the victim mentality. Sometimes bad things do happen to you and you become frozen in your reaction to those bad things. The Ego is continually trying to make you look good and feel good. Staying the victim will let you off the hook by allowing you to believe that your circumstance is everyone else's fault. Questions you could be asking yourself are "Why does this always have to happen to me?"Do you believe in fate or do you think you're in control of your life? Do you think you're responsible for what happens to you?
The victim feels that he or she's been treated unfairly and they can never see a way out. They literally believe they're trapped and sometimes believe that he or she deserves to be punished. Victims are into trauma and drama while creating stress and pain for themselves. It makes them feel important when they can convince themselves they have huge problems, the ego likes that.
We all have moments when we think life hasn’t treated us fairly. We all have times when we may be angry and blame others for our misfortune. Sometimes life’s events may make us feel we even need to be punished and deserve to be a victim, but it becomes a problem when we become STUCK in these feelings. At the root of victimhood is a refusal to forgive.
How do you move out of victimhood? Set your intentions:
1. to forgive those who have wronged you
2. to be impeccable with your word
3. to not to take anything personally
It is easy to say the words I forgive you, but another thing to feel it in your heart. If you are willing to forgive, the how will be taken care of.
You have to practice discipline and awareness to put impeccability of your word into action. Words have energy and that that energy can create or destroy, being mindful of your words will help you to remember that you have a responsibility for the affect you're having on other people as well yourself. One fear of doubt planted in our minds can create a steady stream of drama. Be impeccable with your word also means that you take responsibility for your actions without blaming or judging yourself or others. Being impeccable with your word means you to avoid gossip, the ultimate negativity in word energy.
Taking things personally is connected to your Ego’s need to feel important. Whatever you think and feel is your problem, it's not what someone says it hurts you; it is that what they said touches your personal wounds. No person, place, or thing has power over us. To step out of victimhood you have to be willing to change and express yourself in positive ways. Consistency in using positive energy words you say to others and about yourself will help you step out of victimhood easily and quickly. Realizing that what others say and do is about them not you, can help you to disconnect from responding to them in anger and frustration. You have the freedom to make choices to love yourself and others. That increases your energetic power indeed!
What is your story?
February 9, 2012 1:09 PM
I am thinking about how I can touch lives with my words; what can I say that you would be interested in? First and foremost I am a storyteller. I tell my story and I tell other people stories. I believe my story be true, but the truth of the matter is there are many versions of the truth and it changes daily. I could tell you the story that I have two beautiful daughters and we laughed and played as they grew up or I could tell you the story I had a daughter who was a drug addict and our lives were filled with drama, heart ache, and pain. Both are true, but what is important is a story I choose to live about myself. Many times when people come to us for hypnosis it is because they are choosing to live stories that are harmful to themselves. "I am a victim; I will always be a victim." Through hypnosis we often help our clients create new stories so they can live richer fuller lives. Think about your personal story doesn't empower you or doesn't make you a victim? Sometimes you have to connect with the subconscious mind to change your story.
January 24, 2012 4:43 PM | Tagged as Golden heart hypnosis Center, hypnosis, Hypnosis Illinois, Hypnotherapy, hypnotism, hypnotist, Sharron Magyar
A new client opens the door to the office gingerly, peeks his head in. I don't know what his expectations are, voodoo heads hanging from the ceiling? One thing for sure I can tell he still operating in the belief that I'm going to make him bark like a dog, cluck like a chicken and then make him stand on his head for 15 min. Perhaps I will make him rob a bank too. The point is he has a misconception that I can make him do anything and he doesn't have a choice in the matter. As a consulting hypnotist we know better. Now here's the tricky thing, you know if a person believes all these things, he has to be desperate to make changes if he is willing willing to make an appointment. Many people who come to the door for hypnosis are at their last end for help.
My first job is to educate client about what hypnosis is and isn't. Hypnosis is safe and as a client you do have free will. Milton H Erickson (born 1901, died 1980) one of the most noted hypnotist of all time, believed the trance state is a normal part of everyday occurrence in which the individual has fixated attention.
Examples of that would be when your child is playing a video game on TV and you call to him and he doesn't hear a word you said. Your child is in a natural hypnotic state. Another example would be you are driving down the road and all of a sudden you arrive somewhere and don't remember the scenery or how you got there.You were in a hypnotic state brought on by the repetitious sound of the tires. Erickson noted individuals become so immersed in an activity that they go into a trance state, and most people do not recognize trances as a hypnotic state.
When we start our conversation with the new client we explain to them that we honor the wisdom of Erickson in which our approach to hypnosis is permissive, accommodating and indirect. We believe in providing the opportunity for the client to choose to accept or reject suggestions at their own pace, in their own time. ( Erickson's belief was that direct suggestions elicit resistance to the suggestions through hypnosis) Erickson also believe the unconscious mind response to openings, opportunities, metaphors, symbols, and contradictions.
What do we mean by accommodating? It means that we work within the framework of any person who walks in our door, whatever that may be. We spent time getting to know the individual, what is the past history, what goals are they working on? What is the preferred learning modality and what are their expectations from hypnosis?
As a as a consulting hypnotist we are adaptable. We choose methods of working with a client based on their learning style, expectations and Milton Erickson was right in noting optimun results come from adaptability on the hypnotist part. Not not only do we work as a hypnotist in our office but we train hypnosis students for certification through the National Guild of Hypnotism and we apply that adaptability principle in our training. We take into consideration each students learning framework and challenge them within their learning style.
I don't believe in reinventing the wheel. I believe we each have the opportunity to learn from those who go before us and build upon that learning. Milton Erickson had great wisdom in valuing and accepting each person as they were, whatever that might be. That is a heritage he passed to hypnotist today. My challenge is to give honor to his wisdom each day that I work with hypnosis. When you come into our office door for hypnosis you will receive respect, confidentiality and adaptability to help you achieve your goals. Call for an appointment today.
Life Lessons With Houdini
January 22, 2012 11:45 PM | Tagged as Golden heart hypnosis Center, hypnosis, Hypnosis Illinois, Hypnotherapy, hypnotism, hypnotist, Sharron Magyar
Right now I'm babysitting my sister's pitbull dog Houdini while she is gallivanting on a yacht in the Caribbean. (Are you noticing a hint of jealousy?) Houdini is a special dog, he's lovable, curious and very smart; he can get out of any fence, hence his name Houdini. Usually my husband Steve and Houdini are sidekicks, but Houdini and I are on our own for a few days.
Today is a beautiful day in Illinois, the sun is shining, it's 50° in January, a rarity here, so I decided take Houdini to Wildlife Sanctuary for walk. A brave thing for me, as I couldn't walk from the bathroom to the front room four months ago. There's a little fear that maybe I can't do it. The moment I thought about walking I could tell Houdini was tuned in. It's hard to get a collar on a 90 pound dog while he is prancing, pretty soon his enthusiasm was spreading to me.
We piled into the car; his excitement was so great I could hear him just like a little kid, "When are we going to get there?" (Life Lesson # 1, Be enthusiastic about life!) A smile began to spread across my face. The next thing I knew Houdini was sitting on the dashboard of the car. Whoops! I forgot to tell him riding with Sharron was different than riding with Steve. He's okay and a smart learner, he promptly planted is butt on the seat and his nose out the window. He smelled air, he was taking in all the sites and was totally engaged in the moment.
We finally had arrived, he lunged out the car, "Let's go, I have places to go and things to do!" His attitude was contagious; I couldn't wait to see what he was going to do. As we began our walk he engaged all of his senses, was on alert as he watched with sharp eyes what he could see and he seized all the opportunities he could. He lunged on a dead fish by the water.(Life Lesson # 2, Seize life's opportunities.) Boy was he fast ! He came up with the fish, "I am master!" He shook the fish to pieces, covering me with fishwater. (I was doomed with fish breath on the ride home.)
Time passed quickly and I didn't even think about how hard walking was. Finally I toldl Houdini I needed timeout. We found a bench as I gave Houdini a lesson in being patient and still, when Houdini spied the quacking ducks. Houdini's nose pointed out, he was ready for attack. "Come on Houdini," I say, that's for another day. Houdini truly knows how to take an opportunity when it presents itself as he peed on every rock, bush and plant along the way back, and even when the pee ran out. I laugh!
Suddenly I realize I had set my goals too high and have gone too far for me to walk. (Life Lesson # 4, If you set your goals high, you better be prepared to accept help.) Houdini being a good friend he is, pulled me up the last hill.
Finally I told Houdini we have to go, he made a groan. Now were sitting in the living room, his 90 pounds crammed in my lap. He's an opportunist who will take a hug anytime he needs it. (Life Lesson # 5, It's OK to ask for a hug when you need it.) I began to fall asleep in so did he. My last thought was I better bring in my grandson's geans off the back porch or Houdini will eat them.
Tribal Soul Loss
January 22, 2012 10:34 PM | Tagged as hypnosis, Hypnosis Illinois, Hypnotherapy, hypnotism, hypnotist, Sharron Magyar, Soul Loss
As individuals we begin our journey into the world connected to a tribe where we learn from a collective will-power by absorbing strengths and weaknesses of that tribe. An example of tribal strength and weakness is the survival of wolves, elephants, and monkeys. The young animals are protected and nourished, trained by the tribe until they learn all the rules and are strong enough to be one of the elders of the tribe. If there's a breakdown in the tribe it is a serious threat to the whole community, especially the young of the community. A younger Wolf will learn hunting individually and collectively from the older generation, that is critical for its survival. It is through interactions with groups and family that we learn strengths and weaknesses which will affect our personal energy field. I believe today in the United States we are suffering from community (tribal) breakdown which results in little honor, loyalty, justice or spiritual foundation for our children.
As our children absorb all the tribal strengths and weaknesses they will build an energetic foundation for their life either in fear and weakness or strength and positive beliefs. Our country is experiencing a breakdown the tribal support system which is energetically poisoning our children which causes children to adopt abandonment/instability as their coping response. The end result is they are having difficulty making commitment to remain in relationships and often reject social bonding to avoid intimate relationships.
Tribes can choose experiences collectively such as 911 or the flood of New Orleans. In this case the tribe will respond collectively with courage and valor or literally experience soul loss in which they become negatively energetically impacted through that experience. People often refer to those experiences as "The day that changed my life". As a hypnotist we can help those people by assisting them to energetically retrieve the lost part of themselves to regain power in their life, as well as retrieve a positive life outlook.
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Interview on Cool 101.9 with Amie Meneghetti
December 31, 2011 5:48 PM | Tagged as Hypnosis Illinois, Hypnotherapy, hypnotism, hypnotist, Jan 4th World Hypnotism Day, NGH
Listen on your radio (7 AM CST) 01/03/2012 as Amie Meneghetti interviews Sharron Magyar, CH, CI, owner of Golden Heart Hypnosis. We will talk about hypnosis and World Hypnotism Day. Listen live Cool 101.9, Springfield, Illinois and call in your questions. Win a free hypnosis session to help you acomplish your new years resolution!
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February 2, 2011 1:08 PM
By smagyar | Published October 27, 2010
Wisdom comes without thinking, straight from the heart
Wisdom is bending your knee and serving mankind
By Sharron Magyar
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February 2, 2011 1:07 PM
By smagyar | Published November 3, 2010
PTSD is caused an by an event in which the person experienced or witnessed an event that death or serious injury was actual or threatened. The threat could be of the self or another person. Normally the response evoked feelings of fear, helplessness, horror or panic. PTSD experiences become embedded in your subconscious mind and and body.
A hypnotist will be dealing with the client’s perception of the event more so than the actual event itself. Following is a list of feelings that might be impacted positively through hypnosis imagery and suggestions:
We always have a stong referral network to doctors, psychologist, social workers and counselors that we often work with, but the unique situation with hypnosis is that all healing is self-generated. I find that clients are relieved to find they are not alone in their situation and are delighted to realize they have to power to take back their lives.
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February 2, 2011 1:01 PM
By smagyar | Published December 8, 2010
You showed up on our door one day and said Can I help you?
You tricked us into thinking we were helping you.
You showed our father compassion and patience,
You did all the little things that were important to our mom,
You hauled stinky fish, got in the fish tank,
You picked up rocks one by one and put them in place for Mom,
You laughed, you danced, and you were a great friend,
You were a faithful man, gentle and kind,
You helped mend Cheyenne’s heart,
You showed respect to all the customers, worked hard,
We’ll drink that mint julep with mom on the porch,
In Honor of David Petit, December 8, 2010
by Sharron Magyar
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Good Relationship Listening
February 2, 2011 1:00 PM
By smagyar | Published December 11, 2010
Most failed relationships are based on the inability to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and understand how they feel. I think of my mother as a wonderful example of a person who knows how to build good relationships. Even at 83 years old she has a lot of overnight guests, friends and family who visit her. Her good listening ability nourishes these friendships. She listens carefully, with full attention, without judgment or emotional involvement.
The ego holds onto I want, I need, and we tend to think about ourselves rather than about others. Our fears and insecurities inhibit our ability to connect in a meaningful way. The ability to take interest in others and actively explore their personal inner workings requires initiative in relating. Initiative in relating is taking our attention off ourselves, then patiently and sensitively questioning others and listening to their answers.
Initiative in relating takes practice as the ego keeps stepping up with its feelings, I want, I need, I feel, You didn’t do, you did, my feelings are hurt, on and on the internal dialogue continues. Fortunately initiative is a learned relationship skill. We can develop it if we lack it and God can help us correct this deficiency. The Bible says in James 1:19 let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak.
To become an active listener make a conscious effort to hear not only the words another person is saying but, more importantly, try to understand the complete message being sent. The more entrenched and emotional the conflict, the more vital the listening role is.
Thoughts for transforming your life,
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Release from Apprehension & Fear
February 1, 2011 5:56 PM
By smagyar | Published December 17, 2010
The other day I went to the Dr. with my husband. We got on the conversation of why Viet Naum Vets couldn’t let go of the trauma of what they saw in the war. The Doctor noted she saw hard things every day and she just let it go and her advice to my husband was to just put Viet Naum in the past. I was dumbfounded that a woman with hundreds of thousands of education had such a narrow view of how to heal Viet Naum Vets but had to go home and process what she had said. I believe a person can only help another person heal as far as they have healed and her viewpoint was out of her own ignorance. (By the way she is a great Doctor in many respects and I do really like her.)
Letting go of a trauma takes grieving and you can most of the time process through it. Other times when it is coupled with physical threat or harm to your body, especially if that harm comes out of nowhere, the trauma becomes stuck in your subconscious mind and physical body. That is when we experience reliving the trauma, our body betrays us with specific triggers and says I recognize that threat, protect myself. When the good doctor sees all kinds of trauma, she can move beyond it and forget it because those traumas are not coupled with physical threat to her in any way. The defining element to whether a person can just forget a negative experience or “will it away.” is the physical threat part.
In one small moment the negative experience can be released so you can move on to the place where you can “just forget” and live for today like the Dr. says. Not letting go of negative experiences is not always a result of faulty thinking; sometimes it is a result of embedded fear both subconsciously and physically. Release of these fears can come about through massage, sometimes through hypnosis on rarer occasions I have partnered up with a massage therapist to work with both.
In one year I lost my father, my daughter, got hit by a car which physically incapacitated me. By far the most traumatic event was being hit by a car because I had no way of controlling my body’s responses to specific triggers. Through all the experience I have personally learned a lot about my mind and body, its mechanics and how to heal from it. There is hope at the end of the tunnel; it just takes courage to walk through it. As a hypnotist we do not work with mental or medical disorders, this is clearly the work for psychologist. Hypnosis can be used to promote wellness in your life by helping to release apprehensions and fears, give hypnosis a try, it really can transform your life. The payoff is you can achieve a more positve outlook, regain lost energy, sometimes that can make a huge difference in life.
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January 28, 2011 8:11 PM | Tagged as Golden Heart Hynosis Center, hypnosis
Hypnosis is all about change and at Golden Heart Hypnosis Center, our goal is to help you rediscover and activate the resources you need to help you achieve your goals.
Hypnotism is merely an activating force, enabling you to move forward with confidence.
As a hypnotist we help ordinary people solve ordinary problems.
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January 28, 2011 8:10 PM | Tagged as Sharron Magyar
Sharron Magyar has always been drawn to the concept of discovery.
She originally interpreted that as a calling into the Arts. As an artist, she embraced the discoveries found in the imagery and metaphorical language of art.
What appears on the surface does not always reflect the deeper message that lies within.
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